This is really hard...usually guys are messed up for two reasons...their Mom and their first love/crush. Without knowing his Mom...Ben may be looking to fill that void, and let's face it, some never get over that first love. So, unless Ben (who doesn't really seem that talkative) confesses his issues to Harper? How would she know about this "woman" that Juliet looks like? And besides, what a mean therapist, really! Where did she get her skills from...Talk about having issues herself!